July is Bereaved Parents Awareness Month

It is bereaved Parents Awareness Month. There are so many things that I wasn’t aware of before we lost Robbie. I only knew the grief of losing my parents and grandparents. Losing Robbie is a grief is that is impossible to put into words. July is our 5th month without Robbie. I miss him so much. ❤

Below is a blog post from another blogger that lost her son. She does a good job at explaining the grief of losing a child.

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  (Link to her full post https://abedformyheart.com/7-things-since-loss-of-child/)

7 Things I’ve Learned Since the Loss of My Child

October 31,2015

Blog Post by Angela Miller

“…Child loss is a loss like no other. One often misunderstood by many. If you love a bereaved parent or know someone who does, remember that even his or her “good” days are harder than you could ever imagine…

1). Love never dies.

There will never come a day, hour, minute or second I stop loving or thinking about my son. Just as parents of living children unconditionally love their children always and forever, so do bereaved parents. I want to say and hear his name just the same as non-bereaved parents do…

I love my child just as much as you love yours– the only difference is mine lives in heaven…  

2). Bereaved parents share an unspeakable bond.

In my seven years navigating the world as a bereaved parent, I am continually struck by the power of the bond between bereaved parents…

3). I will grieve for a lifetime.

Period. The end. There is no “moving on,” or “getting over it.” There is no bow, no fix, no solution to my heartache. There is no end to the ways I will grieve and for how long I will grieve. There is no glue for my broken heart, no exilir for my pain, no going back in time. For as long as I breathe, I will grieve and ache and love my son with all my heart and soul. There will never come a time where I won’t think about who my son would be, what he would look like, and how he would be woven perfectly into the tapestry of my family.

I wish people could understand that grief lasts forever because love lasts forever; that the loss of a child is not one finite event, it is a continuous loss that unfolds minute by minute over the course of a lifetime. Every missed birthday, holiday, milestone– should-be back-to-school school years and graduations; weddings that will never be; grandchildren that should have been but will never be born– an entire generation of people are irrevocably altered forever.

This is why grief lasts forever. The ripple effect lasts forever….

4). It’s a club I can never leave, but is filled with the most shining souls I’ve ever known...

5). The empty chair/room/space never becomes less empty.

Empty chair, empty room, empty space in every family picture. Empty, vacant, forever gone for this lifetime. Empty spaces that should be full, everywhere we go. There is and will always be a missing space in our lives, our families, a forever-hole-in-our-hearts. Time does not make the space less empty….

6). No matter how long it’s been, holidays never become easier without my son.

Never, ever. Have you ever wondered why every holiday season is like torture for a bereaved parent? Even if it’s been 5, 10, or 25 years later? It’s because they really, truly are. Imagine if you had to live every holiday without one or more of your precious children. Imagine how that might feel for you. It would be easier to lose an arm, a leg or two– anything— than to live without your flesh and blood, without the beat of your heart. Almost anything would be easier than living without one of more of your precious children. That is why holidays are always and forever hard for bereaved parents…..

7). Because I know deep sorrow, I also know unspeakable joy.

Though I will grieve the death of my son forever… I live from a deeper place. I love deeper still. Because I grieve I also know a joy like no other…”

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~When a parent dies, you lose your past; when a child dies, you lose your future. – Anonymous~

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